bdev/nvme: set default bdev_retry_count to 3

Now that we have a much more robust retry framework,
set the default bdev_retry_count to 3.  Users can
still override this default with the bdev_nvme_set_options
RPC as before.  This ensures that by default, we will
retry I/O when possible.

Signed-off-by: Jim Harris <james.r.harris@intel.com>
Change-Id: I045bf4969d02be32b951e72a148ce6b6e251dec1
Reviewed-on: https://review.spdk.io/gerrit/c/spdk/spdk/+/11107


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